I recently spoke with my Mom about my Dad – who passed away in 2002 from cancer. During the talk, my mom made a statement that blew my mind.
She told me that my dad wished he had worked less and enjoyed life more.
While this brought tears to my eyes (he died at 48) … it also lit a fire under me.
My Dad was never able to make this a reality – but with some discipline (and planning) you and I can. We can be there for our family, our kids, and (hopefully) wrestling.
There are a thousand reasons why I personally want to work less. I want to be around for the little things. I want to help my wife more with our 3 (soon to be 4) kids. I want to be able to put my kids to sleep and be home when they wake up. I don’t want wake up one day at age 65 (God willing) and regret missing out on my family.
To be completely honest, another big motivator is wrestling. I want to be around the sport with my son. I want to be there for his big wins, his losses, his questions, and his injuries.
So here is my plan to make this happen. Hopefully you will get something out of it.
1. I plan to push hard during my work time. Because my wife and I own our business – it is really easy for me to be relaxed on how I spend my time at work. My wife is my boss – and to be honest – she is way too easy on me. I’ve always found that the things that move the dial at work are the things that make me feel uncomfortable. I plan to get uncomfortable much more often.
2. I am going to work on what’s important and not just urgent. I recently read a book called The One Thing. The basic message was that you can get 80% of the results from 20% of the actions. I have found this to be true. In the past, I would like to check 10 things off my list to feel like I accomplished something and the only thing left was usually the one thing that actually mattered. No more.
3. I will say no more often. This sounds really selfish, but I think of this as also saying yes to my family – and spending time with my family, my wife, and my kids in sports … and eventually wrestling with my son. In the past, I have been a people pleaser and might my family’s needs behind that of others who need me. I want to be there for any and every one, but let’s face it … we just can’t do it if we want more time with our families.
4. I am going to watch our spending more. Because my wife and I are both very fortunate to make a good living as chiropractors – we have gotten sloppy in this area. Currently, we are in the market for a new mini-van (I never thought I would be saying that) – and we can spend 45,000 for something new or we can spend 15-20,000 on something used. This is a struggle for me because I think that because we work hard that we deserve nice things. This might be true, but I like time with my family more than nice things.
5. I plan to leverage myself and my time. This one is so exciting to me because it makes me see endless possibilities. Again, we are fortunate to have our own business and we are looking to soon bring on another chiropractor. If we find the right person – and have the right systems in place – then we might be able to work less while maintaining our income. Only time will tell but I am excited about the possibility.
So there you have it – my public statement about working less. For those of you who know me, you know this is going to be a change – I have been working 7 days a week for 3 years. Like my Dad (and many of you I’m sure) I work a lot of hours because I’ve always felt it’s what we are supposed to do.
For me, I think I’m supposed to be there for my family first. Yes, we need to make a living to cover the bills – but I need to honor my Dad and do what took him 30 years to figure out. Do what he wished he could have done if he had another chance.
What about you? I’m guessing you feel the same way about your family and your kids otherwise you probably wouldn’t be reading this.
What can you do to be more effective at work and hopefully be able to enjoy every moment of your wrestlers career?